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How to Pick Your Battles Like The Wise Guys

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Last updated on June 29th, 2020 at 09:14 pm

In life, it is very important to pick your battles wisely. In this article, you will get to know tips you can use to make the right decision on battles.

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Wise people don’t pick random battles. If they must always win, retain, and pride their crown, then they must pick their battles wisely.

Life battles come not because we plan for them, but because we have to deal with them at some point. In fact, even the most peaceful ones are sometimes tested with it.

We are likely to come across some of them in our life journey, but does that mean all should be jumped into because we have to face them?

I have to say no. There are always ones that don’t worth our time and energy. In other words, that is simply being smart with your battles.

Picking the right ones will prove worthy, and of course, you should expect to win such.

Picking the wrong ones, however, just won’t make sense, and you will waste your time and energy on a battle you won’t win.

This may not seem like an easy task to go with, but the fact remains that as long as you stick to standard guidelines, you should be fine.

The right battles to pick

Being able to figure out the right battles to fight is worth fighting. Unfortunately, figuring out how to pick the right battles may not seem easy.

But you don’t need to worry. Later In this article, you will find out how to do that.

All battles should be handled with wisdom because maintaining your crown and winning streak is more important.

People who pick their battles wisely have also learned to understand that some battles are just mare traps that may result in regrets later on. So all they have to do is simply jump over them and move on.

However, if these people eventually pick the right battles, they still make sure they deal with it the right way.

Wise person meaning

Often times, some say wise people become wiser as they get older. While this is true, wise guys are also wise because they live constructively.

Being wise means the ability for you to show good judgment or the benefit of experience.

Also, a wise person is someone who doesn’t go with the crowd, learns from every life experience, and uses them to make his or her decisions.

If you feel wise, you will feel like a winner who wouldn’t allow large opinions to steal his glory and wouldn’t fail to capitalize on his experiences and that of others.

Just like the wise guys, a wise girl also means she possesses the attributes of a wise person, though she looks beyond her being just a girl and wants to act right.

However, what makes a wise man wise is not different from what makes wise guys wise, though a wise man is backed with more life experiences that help him in giving solid advice.

A wise person is like a “king” in a chess game, reluctant to act on every single thing, but not in learning, yet humble, open, and liberal.

Knowledge, Qualities, and Smartness of wise guys

People who are wise tend to be focused and have a broader scope of knowledge. This is due to their thirst for answers to everything, every now and then.

They definitely possess the 3 types of knowledge. These 3 types of knowledge include:

  • Physical knowledge – this type of knowledge deals with the act of places.
  • Logical-mathematical knowledge – this refers to the act of working things out. Simple or difficult.
  • Social knowledge – social knowledge deals with the act of situations.

These are the 3 types of knowledge, and it is likely for wise people to portray them accordingly.

Also, the qualities of wisdom you will often see wise these people portraying include:

  • Unbaised judgements
  • Compassion
  • Benevolence
  • Ethics
  • Experimental self-knowledge

Since smartness has to do with how practical you get with ideas and exhibiting intelligent behavior, wise guys use it to complement their wisdom.

Although, in comparison, none is really better than the other, because they both complement each other.

However, in comparison with being clever, being wise is not on the self-centered side like being clever. So, in the right justification, it’s safe to say that being wise takes the upper hand.

Because wisdom guarantees everything, so being clever to deceive shows weakness rather than strength or mental strength.

Importance of being wise

Being wise is important because it will definitely make you a winner, put you ahead, and save you a lot of troubles and heartaches.

To be smart and wise, extremely wise, and live a wise life, you need to consider the these:

  • Think before everything
  • Realize that mistakes are bound to happen
  • Don’t follow the crowd
  • Accept things with cautions
  • Don’t be self-centered
  • Think before conclusions
  • Reject things you don’t understand.

To grow yourself and gain wisdom, however, you need to be easy with life so you can learn from everything single thing.

And for you to talk wisely, you just need to think first and talk more often from experience with sound judgments and logic.

This will also help you to always make the right choice, no matter your age or level of experience.

Then, it will even get better as you grow older every day, as long as you abide by the right things.

Let’s see how you can now pick your battles wisely.

How to pick your battles wisely

Below are practical ways you can always use to pick your battles wisely like the wise guys.

1. Avoid unnecessary arguments

It is important you don’t dash out your energy and time that should be invested in something worthwhile.

Do you know the power of silence? Have you learned how to walk away, and why it is super important?

To tell you the truth, most of all these unnecessary arguments may just end up spoiling your mood at the end.

So, if you don’t control it rightfully, it would leave you with low energy, and could even trigger something more severe than just an argument.

If you happen to be short-tempered, it is very crucial you take these into considerations:

First of all, before you start the argument, ask yourself – “is this even worth it, is this not trying to awaken something, are you sure this is not one of those life traps?”

Being able to ask and properly answer such questions will set you on the right pace. Prioritize discussions over arguments.

It is a practical example of an alpha male. He seeks better than some unnecessary arguments and fights.

2. Control your temper

Whether you like it or not, people will still step on your toes. But control your temper not to jump into retaliation the wrong way. That’s a trap you may be falling into.

Often times, people will just want to see how you react to certain things they do consciously.

Figuring out such scenarios makes you a winner right there. It means you have been able to prove you are mature than they thought you were.

Any unfortunate thing you end up generating as a result of not controlling your temper won’t be blamed on who triggered it.

No, it will rather be blamed on you who wasn’t able to control it.

So, you see how you could get defeated by the other person who triggered it?

Right, it wasn’t worth it in the first place, but make that possible by not letting your emotions get the best of you.

Before you think of reacting, think of why it would have been better if you had better stayed calm.

I bet you won’t regret being calm because “calm” itself is a superpower. You need it.

3 Address important battles rather

Despite all, by the way, if you must address any battle, it should be the important ones for that matter.

By important ones I mean the ones that are really worth addressing.

There is a reason why you may want to address the important battles. Specifically, it’s for you not to be on the losing end.

This is one reason why it is also important you identify the battles to face, and the ones to walk away from.

On the other hand, important battles never make you come off as a loser later on – the difference will always be clear.

As long as you can control your temper and filter it from the battles that don’t affect you in any way.

Coming out as a winner in the battles that are important proves you are a champion for life. Why? Because you will always win such.

But facing the unimportant battles and ending up losing them just steals your glory.

As a winner, you need the glory. Without it, you can’t actually boast of being the king.

4. Address issues the right ways

So, you want to address those important battles?

Not bad. But you should also know that there are always the right ways of addressing everything.

You wouldn’t want to address your battles or issues in ways that would have been better if you had just ignored it.

Also, you wouldn’t want to address those battles in ways that will not bring any value into the efforts put in place to address it.

Battles are addressed by people to disagree in less fierce and resolve flaws. But addressing these battles the wrong way will only make things worse.

If you must put in your time and energy into any battle, let it be the important ones.

Also, they should be addressed rightfully to ensure it worth your time and energy.

If you find out that you seem to be going overboard with your reactions to the battle, you had wanted to take a deep breath.

Just breathe, so you can ensure you deal with it the right way.

5. Ask yourself before reactions

Ask yourself if it is worth your time and energy. Asking yourself this question will help you in picking your battles wisely.

Sometimes, the only way you can avoid unnecessary battles is to actually think before you actively react to anything.

Failure to think before reactions are likely to make your pick unnecessary battles, and may even make you regret later on.

In that case, practice the quick to observe and slow to anger, to utilize these tactics in selecting your battles.

Some battles are life traps. In order not to fall into such traps, you need to think deeply to get you on the right path.

How about asking yourself questions like, “are you sure this is not one of those life traps?”

Yeah, that will let you weigh the battle to know its true importance of occurring in your life. Be absolutely selective.

This is where your ability to make the right choice will also matter a lot.

6. Don’t fight without doing it constructively

There’s no need to dive into any fight without considering it properly and carefully in a way it would be helpful later on.

If you just fight for the sake of fighting without doing it in a constructive way, then there is no way it is going to make sense.

If you decide to approach the fight constructively, then it means there was a finite standard to which it was started.

The best fights that were fought brought better understanding and stronger relationships after addressing the issue.

While you go ahead to address the battle, it is also advisable you address it in a logical way, so you can keep it to a constructive and respected level.

You just have to bear in mind that there is an important reason for addressing that battle.

So, going contrary to the main reason for starting the battle will not prove solid.

Moreover, you will get to feel much better when you address it constructively than when you don’t.

In addition to that, after you have ended it constructively, be sure to follow it up well.

Make sure you don’t hold grudges. It is part of addressing battles constructively.

Because if you hold grudges at the end of it all, your aim of addressing it constructively will be defeated.

Wrap up

People who are wise always pick their battles wisely. They don’t jump into any battle that comes their way without a second thought.

Just as being wise means the ability to show good judgment or the benefit of experience, wise guys know to how use it.

They don’t go with the crowd. And they learn from experience and use it to make vital decisions.

They possess the 3 types of knowledge, show the qualities of wisdom, and blend their wise side with smartness.

Being wise with your battles will make you a winner, put you ahead, and save you lots of troubles and heartaches.

You just need to use it to pick your battles wisely to match everything up.

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